Navigating a fulfilling career while seeking personal life satisfaction can often feel like walking a tightrope. In the 179th enriching episode of "The Leadership Project," Mick Spiers converses with Lon Stroschein, best-selling author of "The Trade: How to Move from the Life You Have to the Life You Want" and founder of the Normal 40 movement. Lon shares insights from his journey, the pivotal moments that defined his career, and how he helps others find their true calling.
Pivotal Decisions and Personal Growth
Lon begins by recounting the various life-changing decisions that sculpted his career path. At the age of 22, Lon faced his first crossroads: should he return to his family farm or seize a unique opportunity to work for a U.S. Senator? His choice to step away from family expectations and pursue the path less travelled became a defining moment. It wasn't just about him but about understanding his choices' profound effect on others, especially his family.
Lon emphasizes the concept of regret. He suggests using it as a filter to make decisions: "Will I regret not taking this opportunity?" This simple yet powerful question guided him through the various forks in his career path — from working in politics to joining the banking industry, and later transitioning into the tech world and eventually founding Normal 40.
Understanding Fulfillment
Lon explores the idea of achieving goals only to find them unfulfilling. He crafted his career meticulously, reaching high professional status and financial success, but still felt a void. Lon succinctly describes this dichotomy: “I had checked all the boxes, achieved everything I set out to achieve, only to realize that I wasn’t feeling fulfilled.”
At this juncture, Lon highlights the importance of listening to your "ego" and identifying whether decisions are driven by genuine self-fulfillment or the image you’ve cultivated for others. It's crucial to distinguish between what we perceive as societal expectations and what truly resonates with our inner being.
The Power of Reframing
Throughout his journey, Lon significantly emphasizes reframing one’s perspective. Words carry power, and how we define our steps can make a difference in our actions. For instance, he didn't consider leaving his job as "quitting,” but rather as his work being “done.” “The minute I reframed my decision, the weight lifted off my shoulders,” Lon shares.
Another strong element is how Lon directed his savings mindset toward a "bet on me" fund, taking 10% of his retirement savings to invest in his passion and future endeavours.
The Birth of Normal 40
Lon's experience led to the creation of Normal 40, a community for individuals at a career crossroads. The inspiration came from his ability to connect deeply with people experiencing similar journeys and struggles. Normal 40 serves as both a support system and a practical guide for anyone looking to pivot their career while achieving a balanced and fulfilling life.
Conclusion
This episode is an inspiring narrative about recognizing that the feeling of being stuck or unfulfilled is more common than you’d think. Lon Stroschein’s powerful message echoes a simple yet profound truth: you are not alone, and it’s never too late to trade the life you have for the life you want. Engage with the Normal 40 community, explore new passions, and most importantly, bet on yourself.
Key Takeaways:
Forks in the Road: Every pivotal decision, no matter how intimidating, carries the potential to reshape your life. Reflect on opportunities through the lens of potential regret.
Image vs. Ego: Differentiate between decisions driven by societal expectations and those driven by genuine fulfillment.
Power of Reframing: Simple language reframing can significantly alter your perspective and ease decision-making.
Community and Support: Join a community like Normal 40 to connect with others facing similar journeys, gaining strength and insight from shared experiences.
Engage with Lon:
Find Lon Stroschein on LinkedIn where he shares daily inspirations and insights.
Explore the Normal 40 community and consider joining for support and guidance.
Grab a copy of "The Trade" and dive deeper into the journey towards a fulfilling life. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CBSRSH2T/
Final Reflection
For those feeling the heavy weight of unfulfillment, remember this: you are not alone. Engage in communities, rethink your goals, and seek personal fulfillment courageously.
As Lon aptly puts it, it's about ensuring you don’t look back with regret but move forward with purpose.
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