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From Shadows to Strength with Evan Spargo


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In today's crowded world of self-development and coaching, finding voices that resonate genuine transformation and empowerment is rare. Recently, on The Leadership Project, Mick Spiers had the opportunity to sit down with Evan Spargo (MCC), a master-certified coach and founder of a transformative community called Ascension. Evan's story is one of overcoming personal shadows, discovering confidence, and setting the groundwork for men’s mental health and awareness worldwide. This blog delves into his journey and his profound insights into men's coaching.



From Shyness to Leadership


Evan’s journey begins with a young, introverted boy growing up in Melbourne. His life's dramatic transformation from a shy, introverted boy to a leader on the sports field is a testament to the power of intentional change. At just 15, Evan made a conscious decision to harness the power of sport to build his confidence. Through football, he not only found his voice but was able to stand as a leader, eventually leading him to play rugby union for the national team in the Philippines.



The Catalyst of Change: Coaching and Self-Discovery


While the external achievements were amassed, internally, Evan faced significant struggles, leading him to a dark period. It was the introduction to life coaching that shifted his perspective. He discovered that self-development wasn’t only about physical prowess but also involved mental and emotional growth. Working with a coach helped Evan confront deep-seated emotions related to his relationship with his father, unlocking a new level of freedom and joy. The reality of this transformation propelled him to pursue coaching, eventually establishing himself in the field.



The Competency-Confidence Cycle


A significant takeaway from Evan's conversation is the linkage between competence and confidence. He explains how building competency in any area of life inherently enhances confidence. However, confidence also requires authenticity. Evan challenges individuals to introspect on what they might be hiding about themselves and suggests that confronting these shadows can pave the path to building authentic confidence.



The Shadow of Fear: Judgment and Success


Evan draws attention to a recurrent theme in those he coaches: the fear of judgment and, interestingly, the fear of success. Many sabotage their potential due to an unconscious fear of the responsibilities and spotlight that come with success. By delving into shadow work—addressing suppressed emotions and aspects of themselves—they can release these fears and integrate an authentic identity with their public persona, leading to genuine fulfillment.



Why Men Need Men


In an era where men's mental health is often stigmatized, Evan’s approach is crucial. He emphasises the importance of men having supportive networks of other men. These spaces provide a platform where they can share their vulnerabilities without judgment. Through creating men's communities and circles, like his Ascension program, Evan offers a sanctuary where men can express themselves and receive support, championing their growth and emotional health.



Conclusion


Evan Spargo has carved a niche for himself in the coaching world with his focus on men's mental health. His personal journey from shadow to strength is not only inspirational but demonstrates the power of transformation through self-awareness and community support. If you're interested in Evan's work or finding a path to personal empowerment, exploring such men's communities could very well be the key.


For those intrigued by Evan's transformative journey and the impactful work he continues to do, further resources and ways to connect are readily accessible, promising hope and empowerment for many more men across the globe.

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